July 25, 2011 by Rhi
Well, another week goes past with little input from me. I have my excuses, too much life happening at the moment. But finally there is actually HEAT here to be beaten! Hopefully it will last until my wedding at least.
This week’s positive picture:
I realise my last two pictures haven’t exactly been pictures as such. But hey ho. Sometimes I find words more inspirational. Cheesy though they may be, I find validation sometimes in others who have picked the right words to describe something which I have experienced. And these words are quite prescient for me at the moment, for a number of reasons. Sometimes, when you’re in the middle of a shit storm, it’s easy to try and fight fire with fire. When the rage turns white hot, and you get angry about things that you see and hear, the easy way out is to turn round and give as good as you get. What I’ve been finding more conducive to a peaceful, and happy, existence, is to think twice. To ask what it is that I hope to achieve. Will I feel any better for shouting at someone? Will they listen to me any more? Will they change their opinion, of the issue or of me, if I throw harsh words back at them? The answer, invariably, is no. And so my ongoing quest for happiness now involves forgiving people for what they say, and what they think of me. It’s hard at first, to recondition the response. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. Looking at yourself instead of searching for flaws in someone else isn’t a sign of weakness. I was discussing it with a friend the other day, and they hit the nail on the head when they said “The trouble is, when you argue with these people, you are wasting your intellect on someone who can never appreciate it – whether they agree with you or not. Why bother?”. Indeed.
What did you do this week towards your goals?
Well, the walking has gone well. Thanks to a recommendation from a couple of friends, I downloaded RunKeeper for my phone and Ipod. It’s been great at motivating us both to get out and get walking – both by being able to keep track of what we’ve done, and also to plan walks for the future (when I’m less of a lardy arse). It’s also given us the chance to realise that we do more walking that we think. The other day, we were in town buying wedding things, and T recommended that I turn the app on. So I did, and we discovered that, because we park in cheap places on the outskirts of the city, we actually walk a lot further than we realise when out and about!
The good turns are getting harder now, as I feel it’s cheating if I keep doing the same thing for the same people all the time. At the moment, I’m focusing on how I can change my behaviour to help others. Not blowing up over little things, or making time for people when I really don’t feel like it. That might sound like self-sacrificing bollocks, but for me it’s something that’s important. Putting other people first. So it’s going not too badly.
Writing is, however, going very badly, as is the blogging. Mostly due to lack of time. As the wedding gets closer, most of my time is spent organising things here and there, and so my spare time is hard to come by. This pains me, especially as the joy of marriage is being overtaken by the horror of planning. But more on that little gem in the next few days. However, at least by not blogging so often, I’m not getting distracted by the less happy things. Recent events in the world have almost provoked a response from me, but I’ve steered clear. It does me no good to put things out there, at the moment. My thoughts remain my own.
But the tidy house – my GOODNESS has that one moved on apace! After YET ANOTHER flea infestation, we have bought some terrifying stuff from Teh Internetz, which comes with a myriad of warnings and a promise to kill all fleas, in all stages of gestation/life, stone dead. So the house has been hit by a whirlwind of tidy. Clothes in the right places, boxes emptied. Bookcases organised, and corners cleared. The good weather has also meant we can dry things outdoors, which is also a bonus. Job is a good ‘un. I am especially proud of this because, given I’ve got people staying with me in a couple of weeks, I’m actually ahead of the game for once. Usually, I’m up til 4am the day before arrival, desperately trying to find places to hide my crap. This time, it’ll be a casual hoover and dust, and a change of bedlinen. It’s like progess, Jim.
Do you exercise? What’s your favourite and why?
No. Simple answer. Am rubbish. I walk, sometimes. But not often. I’d like to start running, but as I have a chronic back problem (which is getting worse with age), I have to be very careful what I do. Even swimming is a problem – I have to do front crawl gently, or back stroke, because the kicking action of my legs makes the problem worse. One good thing about the nice weather and having a decent sized garden at last, is that T and I can indulge in our love of badminton from the comfort of the patio.
Which blog or blogs have you discovered through the challenge that you particularly enjoy?
This is where I get shown up! I’ve managed to catch up with most people’s posts as part of the challenge, but I haven’t been able to get round to properly READING the blogs yet. I may add them to my blogroll, to encourage me to read more often! I do, however, recall really enjoying Munchberry last week. But if you’ll permit me, I shall endeavour to read more this week, and answer this question then.
What song makes you want to dance at the moment?
Lots of songs make me want to dance! I have to admit that, in terms of chart music, I am completely clueless. I’ve never been one to listen to commercial radio, and even Radio 2 has fallen by the wayside for me in recent times. That’s not to say I’m stuck in the dark ages – I’ve always been very eclectic in my music. But what I mean is, my go to dancey tunes change rarely. A Town Called Malice by The Jam, will never fail to have me leaping around the dancefloor/pub/living room/shower cubicle like a thing possessed.
Again, this is something else I may come back to in a post soon – I’m going to be downloading lots of music for a wedding reception this week!